Going through divorce and dating
I always: 1) learned something 2) became a better person 3) felt like I could conquer the world.Through her actions, she taught me some of the key elements to being a great friend: Focus on your friends Being a truly great friend requires a lot of selflessness.Encourage your friends After getting her husband’s email that day I sat and stared at my screen, thinking about all that she gave to her friends and family. I remembered the night I called her in tears when my then wife told me she wanted a divorce. her response: “you got this.” We all put far too much pressure and doubt in our own minds, and need friends that believe in us…relentlessly, even when we don’t believe it ourselves.
Over the last few years, with each conversation, it always felt a little like this might be the last time we talked. I knew it was there because every conversation ended with much more feeling than any other conversation I have with friends.She wanted to hear stories about my daughters and get updates on our mutual friends.While she would certainly share, her energy was focused on investing in others.She didn’t even need the full story and definitely didn’t need two sides of it. Halfway through a story she would interrupt me, “fuck ‘em.” This always got a laugh.Let your friends know they are important in your life The last time we talked, you would have never guessed what she was going through.
She has been battling breast cancer for five years, and the long fight is drawing to a close.