Dating your husband again
Beaton would advise people who are upset when their exes move on: "Put this person in your past where he belongs, think of what you've learned from the experience, and get busy finding another partner who appreciates you."Your ex did not get an upgrade.
The person they're dating now is not necessarily smarter, more attractive, or kinder than you. Comparing yourself to your ex's new partner, whether to wonder if they're better than you or to wonder if they're similar to you, will lead you down the wrong line of reasoning.
The fact that you broke up wasn't a failure on your part; things just didn't work out, and they might not work out with this new person either. People don't choose people based on checklists; each person will appeal to someone for a different reason. Your ex's new significant other is not your replacement.
Your ex moving on is not a testament to your inadequacy. Your relationship was unique and special and nothing can ever take away from that.
Afterwards, talk about what was your favorite part.
When I surprised my husband and took him to the Pro-Football Hall of Fame, we talked about our favorite exhibits.
However, I believe that dating is essential in marriage.
Getting into relationships in the past at least hasn't changed the way cared about my exes.
However, how quickly you get into a relationship isn't a measure of how desirable you are. It's not necessarily the most attractive or likable people who get into relationships the most easily.
Your ex just happened to stumble upon someone else before you did. When my ex first got a new girlfriend, I feared that it endangered the friendship we formed post-breakup.
If anything, it has helped me know that my friendships with exes were genuine and not ploys to get back together.
If you can confide in your ex about your current relationship, perhaps that's the ultimate sign you've moved on — to a friendship that's just as special.
Your ex will never experience with this new person exactly what they did with you.