Dating for people in recovery programs
I wouldn't date someone that has just started the process but you are showing you are very settled into it We all have our own demons and you are doing amazingly well.I think she just didn't want to pursue the relationship anymore and used this as an excuse.It happens, often for reasons even more minor than this.I admire people who can own up to their issues and take steps to recovery, but I know it won't mesh with my lifestyle so I make it known early to avoid situations like this.You are describing Codependent behaviors when you stated she has no intention of ending the relationship with him after a DUI and jail time.if this is the case & she is unaware of how she has been effected she will continue to seek out what she knows (dysfunction, addicted individuals ect). She wasn’t interested in continuing the relationship and picked the lowest hanging fruit as an excuse to leave without her looking like the bad guy. Hahaha Kidding aside, I find her behavior puzzling, and pretty bizarre as well.
I’m simply giving you an option to see your recovery as a means of protection from people who are not rigorously honest with themselves or others.
I often think this is why people say "be yourself." It's really because the other side wants to see your red flags flapping in the wind from a safe distance.
You don't understand why she would choose someone with so many issues over someone responsible like you, but you know the possible answer(s) already.
To your question of, Sometimes people just give the easiest excuse to break up with someone they want to break up with.
I don't want to be mean (and likely either did she) but it was likely just not working out and she wanted to break up.
Maybe she likes "fix it" projects - she wants to fix him and make him a better person.